There seems to be a pattern emerging among my clients, and the environment at large, that has us focusing on our deficits, our weaknesses, or as I prefer to phrase it – our areas of growth and potential.
Unfortunately for most of us it is difficult to accept, hear, and provide ourselves with positive feedback. We often discount the things we do well everyday, and rather than seeing these things as automatic strengths that we naturally possess, we have a false belief that anything to do with our strengths must be achieved, worked hard for, and overcome. I have found myself believing that our core strengths shape who we are as human beings, and that working against them, and not acknowledging/anchoring/applying ourselves in these strengths leads us to difficult moments that could otherwise be easily avoided.
In acknowledgment that there is no perfect combination of strengths that leads someone to be a successful human being in relationships, employment, families, life, or other categories, I have included what I see are my core traits. Please note – every trait has pros and cons to them, it’s how we view our strengths and make use of them that builds character!
How well do you think these themes describe me?
*Competition
People who are especially talented in the Competition theme measure their progress against the performance of others. They strive to win first place and revel in contests.
Why competitive? I believe that I have always tried to compete, but traditionally within myself. I am always moving the goal post to force myself to go above and beyond my personal limits. I have to consciously slow down and remind myself that life is not always about winning – but gosh golly I love when I do!!!
*Strategic
People who are especially talented in the Strategic theme create alternative ways to proceed. Faced with any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns and issues.
Why Strategic? Everything I do in life has a purpose in my belief. I typically have a plan A, B, C, D, E and sometimes F to get things done. I calculate risks and benefits for most things very quickly, and like to feel my decisions are secure. I like to think of myself a big picture thinker, and often have to slow down to see the trees in the forest for each leaf! I am quick to act, because I believe there are few mistakes that can be unmade.
*Achiever
People who are especially talented in the Achiever theme have a great deal of stamina and work hard. They take great satisfaction from being busy and productive.
Why Achiever? To me I think this should be no surprise to those who know me, or know anything about my type of therapy. I am, for sure, a hard worker, and like results. I like to focus on the here-and-now, and get things done.
*Significance
People who are especially talented in the Significance theme want to be very important in the eyes of others. They are independent and want to be recognized.
Why Significance? I like recognition as much as the next guy, and want to feel valued, appreciated, and respected. Hearing that I’m helping someone like yourself makes me happy, and reminds me why I became a therapist many years ago. It helps me to know when I’m on a good path, otherwise I feel like I may be leading someone down a wrong one, and that is exactly opposite of what I aim to do!
*Analytical
People who are especially talented in the Analytical theme search for reasons and causes. They have the ability to think about all the factors that might affect a situation.
Why Analytical? Well, I think any therapist should be strongly based in logic and analysis if they are going to properly diagnose, assist, and conquer mental roadblocks in their lives as well as others. I am able to pick up cues from most clients rather quickly, learn about them, and come up with plans to assist. I believe that therapy is a conversation, and that I can find various tools to combat any area of difficulty.
What are your strengths? Want to find out? Contact me today to set up an appointment today or get information to attend my next leadership conference about practical application of your strengths!
